“Never assume people sharing the same ethnicity are
exactly alike. Everyone possesses uniqueness. If you misinterpret
that, you’ll mistake your uniqueness.” -Greg Williams,
The Master Negotiator & Body Language Expert (Click to Tweet)
“Do You See Evil In The Myth Of No-Good
The two men clamored about another individual that appeared to
be out of place. One said to the other, “he’s up to no good –
I can tell because he looks just like those no-good people. The
man’s associate said, “I agree.’ He does look and sound like
those no-good people.” Later, the two men discovered that the
person about whom they were speaking was their new boss. Both of
them swore the other to a pledge of silence about what they’d
discussed. And both felt ashamed about what they’d said.
There are myths that people of particular ethnicities are ‘all
alike.’ Nothing could be further from the truth. Some nuances
pronounce the individualism of each and everyone on earth. Even if
they’re small, there will be times when it’ll behoove you to
observe those small differences. In some cases, little will hang in
the balance. At other times, your life may be what’s hanging.
What are the origins of misperception? Why should you be
concerned about it? And how might you alter your perception to
improve the way you see others and the world? Those are the
questions addressed in this article.
What about you – do you ever harbor feelings or thoughts about
those that you perceive as being no-good? Everyone may have such
beliefs at times. When you do, be mindful of where those thoughts
are taking you. There are times when they’ll careen into trenches
that lead to treacherous waters. And, those waters can be the cause
of your demise.
Your mind is an instrument that causes your body to adopt
actions. And your actions can alter the reflection of your account.
That means, they’ll be times when you may want to engage in an
activity because a subject reminds you of something you’ve
encountered in the past. While that may be true, you might consider
how your current situation is different. Doing so will alter your
perspective, which may lead to you adopting a different attitude
Origins of Misperception
Your mind wants to protect you. Because self-preservation is
eminent in everyone. That may be the source of your adverse
feelings or reactions to certain people. Recognize it for the value
it contains. Which means, you should control it. The way to
insulate your thoughts from harming you is to recognize the
specific stimuli you have that cause a particular reaction.
Everything you first view as a threat isn’t. Sometimes, it may be
the environment. At other times, it may not be the environment but
the people in it. The point is, you should be aware of what’s
motivating you to think and act in a particular manner in different
situations. And assess to what degree out-dated assumptions may be
driving your thoughts. Doing that will give you insights into the
best way to alter them.
Why did you do that was the question asked. Because I was upset,
was the reply. Emotions can be daunting when dealing with them. And
they’re more formidable when they’re not serving your
When you look at a scene, a person, a group, what do you
observe? Is there a particular individual that stands out? If so,
why? What draws your attention to that individual? Even if she’s
not in a group, and your attention focuses on her, what drew your
attention? Those are the types of questions you should pose to
yourself before making snap judgments about people. Seek to see
them for who they are. Don’t make an initial assessment that
they’re evil or up to no good because they remind you of someone
that has preceded them. If you take the time to investigate the
hidden qualities they possess that you initially missed, you may
uncover less appalling aspects.
If you’re unaware of the prejudices you possess towards
people, you’ll act and react to them based on those prejudices.
And that can lead you to treat them unjustly and create untenable
situations. Thus, be aware of the thoughts that emanate from your
mind. Those thoughts can take you away from harm or put you in
harm’s way. The controlling factor, per the direction you choose,
is the control you exercise over your mind.
In challenging times, become more aware of your thinking
process. Doing so in less challenging times will allow you to
create a consistent trigger-like mindset. And that will enable you
to think faster in situations that may appear to be
Good thoughts can stem from your mind, but only when you’re
thoughtful enough to curb the bad ones that attempt to control you.
When you lose control, you lose control of your judgments. Then,
you act on instinct. And sometimes that can leave you in unwanted
Once you learn to discipline yourself and manage your emotions
better, you’ll discover new ways to manage your thoughts better
too. That means you’ll no longer see evil in those that you
previously classified as being no-good. Your mind and body will
appreciate that. And everything will be right with the world.
Remember, you’re always negotiating!
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